(There are 3 parts to this post, so bare with me please, it will be well worth the wait but I can’t guarantee anything. )
Reminder: What I share here are my observations, my experiences, my thoughts, feelings and opinions. Every story has two sides and I will add more a little.
As you read, try this experiment: Observe yourself, your reaction, your feelings. Can you relate, do you agree, disagree, does it matter to you? And then let it go, for these are just words, a place of expression and there’s no need for attachment to any of what is written here. It’s another form of communication and expression and it’s quite a skill and art to tune into yourself and just hold the space for your cells to digest and reflect on what is being absorbed. Go ahead and try it.
When I journeyed to Israel at the age of 18 I didn’t ask for permission, I merely expressed to my parents my decision and I was going to go whether they liked it or not. My life, my goals, my future! Following my heart, my path, my truth! So I suggested they surrender and give their blessing for their own conscience. I am not a dog on a leash. “If you love them, release and let them go”
I believe we don’t own one another, or owe one another anything (I’m not talking about materialistically). We all have a right to be here and do what is best for us, not forced upon us. It’s a right to be here not an obligation.
When parents choose to have children, they must understand that they are merely vessels for the beings that are brought in through them. And they can only do their best to raise them the best that they can. And with the “right” intentions, the “right” up bringing may result.
It’s not ideal to expect even our own blood to do something just because we want them to. This happens far too often and there are consequences that go with this way of living, expecting, forcing, etc. And not the best example to set for a child. (To feel obligated to do something, encourages disempowerment and lack/loss of self)
Although, again, it’s not what is said it’s how, it’s not what’s asked but how and it’s important that the intention for the question and expectation (most likely there will be one) is set as well. This makes a huge difference. Of course not having expectations would be quite blissful eh? It takes practice but “practice makes perfect”.
It is important that like anyone, children want to grant your wish whole heartedly, this way no dis-eases result. I don’t mean just physical dis-eases. When a child is brought up to feel obligated to do something, there are rarely ever positive results from this. This sets up this being for a future of, well look at the world you can see what has happened from this way of living.
But many believe that this is the way reality is and unfortunately believe that it’s the way it’s suppose to be and there’s no other way. But there is another way!
Fortunately there is more information available now days through the internet, books, classes and programs for bringing up children “the intended way” lovingly, gently, whole heartedly, and the results.. well it’s apparent when you meet someone brought up this way. It’s rather beautiful and quite different. It’s a real treat, really!
And now with the rise of crystal, indigo and rainbow children, we’re fortunate to have a more aware and conscious flow of such energy in the world. And the info the new generation are bringing in,learning, and sharing with the older generations Wow! Can you imagine there’s actually a positive, more wholesome, loving, even enjoyable and beneficial way of bring up children! (I’m talking about the majority I’ve witnessed, I’m not talking about everyone in general, please bare this in mind) Some parents find joy and bliss even in brining up their children in the old fashioned ways as mentioned here, but does the child want this? Does the child know there’s another way if the parent was willing to seek it? What will happen in the future if the child doesn’t resonate with this way of upbringing? The future depends on the present and the present is the only thing one can change as it’s the only that exists!
One of the key elements I’ve noticed and feel, is to forget most of what the older generation taught, demonstrated or led by example. They too didn’t know any other way. Forgiveness and Compassion go a long way.
And it’s wonderful to see more of the older generation parents/people in general, who are also getting out of their bubbles of old fashioned ways of living. Getting out of their shells, their obligated, discombobulated, FEAR station lives. And those who do, well it too is apparent because when they surrender to their own truths (not that of their upbringing and influences) their dis-eases slowly melt away and youthfulness, vitality and energy suddenly spring back into their lives. It’s actually quite beautiful to witness. The transformation reminds me of a caterpillar-cocoon-butterfly effect.
Traveling brings out the gift of vulnerability. I see this more often in the company of travellers who are out of their “comfort zone”, close to the ones who they are used to being judged by, living for, blocking from with their masks, etc.